Let’s face the facts. A difficult person will be difficult, a know it all will be a know it all, and a toxic a$s hat will be a toxic as$ hat. There is no changing this!
So how do you deal with these people?
This is the way it is and there nothing you can do to change that.
There don’t you feel better already? It’s not our job to change the unchangeable.
- Don’t engage. Weather they are playing the victim (you people forced my hand) or just acting the part engaging with someone who is not worthy of engagement will not help the situation. In fact it will just make it worse by feeding the flames.
- Shut that shiz down!
No this dose Not mean giving them a peace of your mind or outwitting them. Lots of these people are quite smart. People with toxic disorders such as narcissism and phycopathy often have very high IQ’s and even when they are 100% wrong it may prove difficult to prove them wrong. When these people learn word craft debate or discusion is an uphill battle and feeds there ego empowering them and draining you.
The way to shut them down is to invite them to your ignore list both on the forums and in game.
I garante if they get absolutely NO response they will inevitably disappear. After all a toxic ego is hungry and must be fed.
- Know when you are in the right and have faith in the devs.
If someone is harassing you and you have tried communication to no avail and they are within the law of the great COC there is not much you can do. Keep a log of screenshots of abusive behavior and when it gets big enough turn it into the developers.
Also know that the devs are on your side. They want a peaceful and smooth running game. In the case of harassment just give it time and submit those screenshots to the devs. In my three years here I have seen more than a few toxic players just disappear. *poof
In the case of plot wars just have faith that the devs are on it. It may not happen tomorrow but I wouldn’t be surprised to see an opt out option appear the next few months.
- Just starting out.
My suggestion is to start a workshop and level up until you can survive on a tier 3 or 4 world. By this time you should have a lot of plots and can plot out most of what you want.
These worlds are less populated. They are also more populated by the adventurous types. In my experience most toxic people want to ruin your day while making themselves look and feel good.
There is lots of easy prey on low tier worlds and not much challenge to stop them.
- Be cool
Just play it cool. Be the bigger person. Ignore bad behavior and be the change you want to see.
This is our community we make it what we want it to be. Bad guys want you to think you are alone but you are not. Overall we have a special community full of creative and wonderfull people from all walks of life. As$ hats see this and want to watch it burn but there are more of us.
Be cool, be swell, BE BOUNDLESS
This is not a place to discuss how you have been victimised or call people out but rather to discuss strategy and come together as a United front.