Someone who I care for and respect and appreciate their concern DM’d me and asked if I was okay, I seemed to be a bit grumpier, seemed distracted, very repetive in my posts.
I have been going through some major health issues, the pain management was working, somewhat, and then the doctor goes that since I have less pain it was a success and didn’t need to see her any more.
Less pain is NOT a success when I am still in pain the majority of time. When I can’t stand on my feet for more than 10 minutes at a time, when I still can’t make bread, do home canning, can’t even sleep in my bed with my husband all night because I am in so much pain I can’t sleep.
I no longer think of death as a escape for the pain, but I do feel depressed a lot, I feel useless as my hubby has to do dishes, laundry, shopping, house cleaning as I can’t do anything yet am told that I’m better now. I’m not better, I just don’t cry as much because I am in so much pain I want to die from it. We all have our pain level thresholds, what to me is unbearable to another might not be, but what I feel is important to me, sorry, but I can’t go well you can deal with it so I need to tough it, you don’t know what I feel, I don’t know what you feel, for all you know I could be having as much pain or even more than you. So, you deal with your pain, I’m not going to put you down and tell you to quit whining, which I have heard from others. I lost over 30 lbs in three months from Oct to first of Jan because I had no desire to eat, forced myself at times to eat even half a can of soup.
Anyhow, as you can see, my temper is more apt to get out of control, I’m more likely to snarl when before I wasn’t as quick, tried to see both sides of issues. Before I was at times able to play for two or three hours and block it, but now, it has shifted to different areas and most times when I do play, it may be two hours, it is more likely one hour, sometimes even less.
I’m saying this so those who go, sheesh, why is she so B*t%TC#H@Y? That is why, I could be in pain and not realize how contrary, grumpy or negative I am sounding, so please, forgive my grumpiness, being contrary at times as I don’t mean to be like that. Hubby loves me and knows that is not my normal manner so over looks it, 39 years of marriage and he still puts up with me, he deserves a medal.
Even had a couple guild members, nicely go, Janna, be nice now, LOL when they know I am responding and am in pain and so may be a bit more testy than usual.
As for pain meds, the state of Oh and WV do not allow doctors any more to prescribe anything more than Tylenol #3, which is a very low dosage when I should be taking a lot stronger medication.
I’ll try to be more understanding, around the end of Sept I will be seeing a new pain management doctor, but that is for a consultation, so it will be at least a month before treatment will start, maybe two months and then there is no guarantee it will work, last visit it was worse, not better, almost back to original pain levels.
Again, sorry to be so nasty at times, I’ll try to do better at my attitude and be more fair.