This is the update that mom gave me on my sister this morning: Labs look good, no more continuous breathing treatments, heafty amount of meds, breathing too fast at times.
I have not had phone service the past few months, but I do have wifi. I’m able to get messages on messenger from my family, but have a hard time connecting to calls on messenger, so getting short brief updates on my sister is killing me. My sister is now allowed visits, you have to call to make an appointment for visit, but only 1 person per day for only 1 hour. The hospital where they air lifted my sister to is several hours drive from where me and the rest of our family live. None of us have good luck with having reliable transportation except for my mother at this time. Our blazer has been broke down for a year now, we have had my brother in laws truck for about 5 months and it’s now broke down with over heating and something else under nearly about to break at any moment. Hopefully can get that fixed in the next week or 2 after we make our house payment… my daughters vehicle is screwed. It like everything bad that can happen to us is happening right now at the wrong most inconvenient time.
At the hospital only 1 person is allowed to call for updates to check on her which is my mother. And they themselves call my mom twice a day to give an update. I’ve been extremely upset and devastated over my sister along with the added inconveniences, on top of that I’m aggravated with my mother because she has not called 1 single time to check on my sister in between the hospitals updates. Not because she doesn’t care, she does care with all if her heart and is losing her mind over this, but she said she hasn’t called because she is afraid that she will be taking up time with calling when the hospital needs that time to care for the patients.
I do understand my mother’s reasonings with that, but I know it’s not gonna hurt to call at least 1 time each day in between the 12 hours of the updates that they provide. I know if that were one of my children, you better believe I’m gonna call to check on them between updates. I would find a way to drive to that state and sleep in my car in the hospital parking lot if I had to. But that’s just me. I know deep in my heart that when my sister comes too enough to write or ask questions for herself, that she is going to ask if any of the family has called to check on her. And when she does, they are going to tell her no, and that right there is going to crush her heart and make her think that none of us care about her when we do care very much, and then she will probably just give up on fighting for her life.
That’s my reasonings for my mother not calling and checking on her in between the hospitals updates. Not even my sisters own children are allowed to call to check on her. Only 1 person per patient is allowed. Which my sister chose our mother, because she would understand all of the details better than my nieces and nephew. I know, I’m probably being a little over dramatic, but I’ve already lost 2 siblings which has crushed me and the rest of us. Brenda is the baby of the 7 of us. I’m losing my ■■■■■■■ mind and about to have a mental break down. I’m almost betting that with the critical lung problems and all the coughing up really thick phlegm that I do, that I have had for many years. Im also disabled from being able to work because of my lungs. Im almost sure this will keep the hospital from allowing me to go in to visit my little sister.
I’m extremely sorry for this long post. I’m always stuck at home with no one to talk to while my husband is at work. I just needed to get it all off of my chest. I hope everyone has a good day. I really do appreciate all of you from the bottom of my heart.
You are going to make it through this. The whole situation sounds bad, but I know that you can make it out the other side strong. Also, please do not apologize for the long post. We are here for you.
Sorry for not messaging earlier but I have been following… I’m never good in situations like this but I have been keeping your little sister in my prayers since day one that you posted… I hope and pray that she pulls through and gets to enjoy her life to the fullest with you and the rest of the family. Stay positive and be strong for her
Thank you DaOne82. Everyone’s thoughts and prayers have meant so much to me. I was uncontrollably crying most of the day yesterday. I’m trying my best to not do that, but it’s hard. I’ve kept and going to continue to keep positive thoughts. I just hope she fights like hell herself to pull thru this. And you have nothing to apologize for.
Yesterdsy ventilator was turned from 75% to 55%. Being weaned off of pain meds, no blood pressure meds anymore, they tried turning her on her stomach for conditioning, but she couldn’t tolerate that. My mom went to visit her yesterday, I went with her and done all of the driving. No I didnt get to go in to visit her because she is only allowed 1 person for 1 hour per day to visit. But when mom got last nights update (same day we went to visit), they tell mom starting today she is allowed 2 visitors for 1 hour per day. Now why didnt they allow me to go in to see her while I was there, why the hell wait till after we have drove several hours to decide then that 2 people can come to visit after we had left the hospital and them knowing that I was there because my mother cant travel by herself. Makes no damn sense to me. Besides that I’m just glad and thankful that Brenda is doing better and no longer under covid isolation and now allowing 2 visitors. Oh, she tried opening her eyes a couple of times when mom was saying her name to get her attention to let her know we were there with her. Thank all so much for putting up with me on here and following me about my sister. It has helped me alot mentally and emotionally. She isn’t out of the woods yet, so please keep the prayers well wishes, good vibes and thoughts coming. Dont know what I would do without you all.
Now my husband has been sick for 2 days, I’ve been keeping my distance from him as much as I possibly can. I’ve been shoving cold and flu meds down his throat and begging him to take a day off of work to go get tested just in case. His symptoms do seem like the flu, but with covid you can never tell these days. He normally gets sick around this time every year, but better safe than sorry. If he puts this off from being stubborn and gets me sick with covid , then he is gonna wish he never met me 27 years ago hahaha
I got Covid mid January. They were out of rapid tests, so I had to do the lab test, which takes several days. In that time, I came home not knowing till 4 days later I was positive. I passed it on to my mom and my roommate.
Now, we all got vaccinated last year and mom has had the booster. We coughed a bit and had some sinus issues, but that’s it.
I was against getting the vaccine, but now that I’ve had covid, I’m glad I got the vaccine.
Thank you all for being here for me and my family. I’m sad to say that my sister passed away a little while ago. We have several hour drive home getting freezing rain on the way. Hoping for safe travels back home
…words can’t even pretend to begin to offer comfort. I am so sorry to hear this. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Safe travels. If you need anything, please don’t hesitate to inform…
My heart goes out to you and your family… If you ever need a hug ill come visit, wherever you are in the world. For now ill be sending hugs through the ether.
Thank you all so much. This morning we got such good news on her morning update and they were really pleased that she was doing so well. We were so excited to hear about her improvement. And then it wasnt maybe 15 min to an half an hour after her awesome update that we got a call saying that her heart stopped, they were doing CPR on her and that her lungs collapsed and caused her chest and stomach to fill up with an ungodly amount of air. They kept her alive best they could until we got there, she passed maybe 30 minutes or less after we arrived. Again thank you all for everything. I’m exhausted and gonna try to close my eyes for a little bit.
my deepest condolences. So sorry this has happened. Thinking of you and fam in your time of loss.
We are here for you, and I’m thinking of you and your family!