I do have everything set to max. Been keeping an eye on it, it’s mostly at 1 - 1.5GB.
Just played about 30 minutes with task manager open grappling around the mountain n Nasharil - 1-1.1GB memory usage throughout. Then I decided to go back and did a few dozen (extra) portal hops: never went above 1.7GB. I can’t reproduce the high memory usage or the connection issues
The only times the slow connection screen has popped up since has been for actual connection issues (which worked and felt right) and the occasional instant teleport to base when I’m around my beacon and working with machines.